How To Keep Kevin Costner From Ruining Your Blog and Business

How To Keep Kevin Costner From Ruining Your Blog and Business

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  1. I really like Derek Sivers’ (CDBaby) take on what should guide you in building a business, and in gaining an audience and more customers, in his new “Whatever You Want” book. But i like your points about KCS of course here too.

    • Derek Sivers is one of the smartest dudes most people haven’t heard of yet. Definitely a honor to have him mentioned anywhere near me. 🙂

      Thanks for reading and commenting!

  2. My initials are KCS – and it kind of bothers me to be associated with such a horrible syndrome affecting so many bloggers.

    But then again – my dead dad comes to visit my blog all the time – sometimes he even leaves a comment!

  3. So many great ideas in this post. Like many bloggers, I started out with the KCS delusion – if I had a great blog, and eventually came out with some great products, e-books, etc. – my readers and customers would eventually follow.

    Boy was I wrong.

    After the first month passed by and my brand new blog barely had any readers, I slowly began to realize the key to blogging (and the key to many other areas of life) is relationships. Now while these are not my strong point as a natural introvert, I’ve been making a much bigger effort, through social media, reading/commenting on other blogs, and even (eek!) in person networking events to foster relationships. It’s made a big difference, and I can only imagine the impact it will have if I continue with this relationship mindset in the future.

    Thanks for your thoughts, Jessica. I enjoyed this post.

    • Great to hear that you’ve been able to identify what has worked and hasn’t worked with the success of your blog and business. I know for a fact that interaction through comments, etc is crucial in any business, especially one online where that’s pretty much the only way to communicate.

      Chris Brogan is one of the most personable people I know – he’s ALWAYS replying to people on Twitter, Facebook and his blog. I think a lot of the success that he’s encountered is a direct result of how much he cares to engage.

    • Thanks for the kind words! I agree with Brian… interaction is crucial. They’re at the heart of any solid relationship. People buy from people they know and like, and we build better solutions when we understand our customers. It’s the ultimate win-win!

      I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment — that’s what it’s all about! 🙂

  4. Build and they will comes was good on the 19th century. people wanted better products for their needs. today needs have to be invented. No one said my NetBook sucks How about a slate? But once an iPad jumps in people droool…

    I guess its about knowing what they want, when they want, what price they want and how they want. Kindaa hacking your customers mind. Nice title for the next post

    • That *is* a good headline idea… Of course, hacking makes it sound a bit more nefarious than “make friends and find out how to help them.” 😉

  5. When I started out as a newbie I had the very same KCS syndrome. I realized pretty much later that things won’t work that way. Besides I don’t see a point in developing a product/content or a service without really knowing what people want or what the market needs now. And only if we listen we can know about the need!

  6. Jessica, you are so right. I know the message I am testing is right because my potential customers are saying it back to me before I can finish. I see the glint in the eye, notice the more erect posture, and I know I’ve hit an emotional core. From there we will build the company.

  7. I agree roughly a billion percent! People forget to stop and understand their audience – their best customers, and especially the people they wish were their best customers.

    There are some interesting marketing hints in Field of Dreams, though, that you don’t mention here…and it’s also worth pointing out, with respect, that “If you build it, they will come,” is actually never said in the movie itself. It’s a mis-quote of the actual line.

    I re-watched the move earlier this year, and actually ended up writing an article about it: “Four Business Lessons from a Corny Movie.” I hope it’s okay to post the link here?

    • Very cool, Grace! And I agree… an entire marketing book could be written about the Field of Dreams storyline.

      Thanks for taking the time to read and share!

  8. “Try on a message or two and see how they fit.”

    You have to be willing to be wrong in order to succeed. Fine tuning your message takes time and patience and you might not nail it down for a while. It’s ok to try different things and see what happens.

  9. Hello Jessica,

    Thanks for your Post,

    Especially for pointing out your distinction between ‘Core Message’ and ‘Your Story’ I think that I tried to write a Headline to express part of My Story without being able to make it a Core Message I do think that the Core Message needs to be something that is easy enough for anybody to communicate and tell others about, I just made a change on my Blog, and I do think that I now have a better Core Message for my – Happy Home Business Lifestyle – Blog.

    ‘It might not be entirely perfect yet, only I do think that now it’s already somewhat more
    clear what you can expect to find on my Blog’

    All the Best,
    To your Happy – Home Business – Inspiration,

    • So glad I could help… The core message is what you build your story around. It’s *hopefully* what people say you do when you’re not around. Nail that and the rest will likely fall into place. (with a lot of hard work, too, of course)

      Thanks for reading and commenting!

  10. Very true. Just because you think your blog is worth of attention, doesn’t mean it will receive the attention.

    Start off with quality content. Take different angles on subjects or submit reviews, testimonials, or infographs that no other blog can get their hands on.

    The idea of your blog being a spot for unique content is what will drive people to curiously come back time and time again.

  11. It definitely takes much more than just building it!

    I tell my readers this all the time. A lot of beginners, for whatever reason, have trouble believing this–and learn the hard way. Nothing takes the place of great content and intelligent preparation.

    Thanks for the post!

    Jennifer 😉

  12. Thanks so much for this! I love the analogy!

    As a corollary to this, keep in mind that KC went on star in Waterworld and The Postman. Proving that even if you create it and they do indeed come…you need to keep on providing content that your audience wants or your trophy case could start collecting dust faster than you might imagine. Copyblogger always has a unique and interesting take on the world of content and that’s why I continue to read everything you send (well…most everything you send).

    • Gosh, I don’t know which was worse… Waterworld or The Postman. Either way, you’re dead on. Legends are not one-hit wonders… they keep it up and they change the game.

      Thanks for the kind words!

  13. thanks for this Jessica. I see this same message over and over in every color. LISTEN. “Listen to what people want and be ready to make yourself useful”.

    I can do this in my movement studio so well, and have the darndest time in my online world simply because I have 75 ideas at once. The easiest for me to do nothing. Tired of easy.

    Like Nick say, gotta be willing to be wrong in order to succeed. I find myself fine tuning when I don’t even have my core message clear. I

    am the guiltiest on having the colors, bolts, and shopping cart ready to go sans a product even!

    thanks for this reminder.

    • Girl, most everyone I know has been there at some point. Once you see what you’re doing, you can make the change and start moving forward… I’m glad we could help!

      Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment. 🙂

  14. What if your audience is not saying things online, as with say nasa, a very specialized niche, not exactly on facebook regularly. Is there a way to get THEIR attention through social media? Is it possible to build a specially built “ballpark” for them?


    • Darren, I would definitely check out Copyblogger’s free series, Internet Marketing for Smart People.

      Your question is a classic marketing question and I think you’ll find the fine folks at Copyblogger have answered it, along with countless others, much better than I can.

      Good luck 🙂

  15. I feel like I need a t-shirt with Kevin Costner’s picture on, saying something like “You built it. They ain’t coming. Now what?” Sort of a WWKCD thing, but in this case, “What Wouldn’t Kevin Costner Do?”

    But yeah, I love this post. It’s such a classic trap that we fall into, even if we think we know better. I’ve been working online since 2007, but I’ve only been actively blogging for the last six months or so, and it’s truly amazing to me how much faster you can achieve things when you actually reach out to people instead of hiding behind a computer screen 🙂

    Thanks for a great post!

    • Reaching out is sometimes a rather scary venture, but almost always worth the effort.

      Let me know if you print those shirts… I’m sold. 😉

      Thanks for taking the time to comment!

  16. In the past I have made the “build it and they will come” mistake. At the time I thought PPC with Google Adwords was the answer. I was wrong! Big dud.. Since then I have been trying some different approaches to generate traffic to my new blog. Hub Pages, commenting on different blogs, twitter, and patience (which seems to be the real key.) I’m set to break 500 page views my first month, which isn’t stellar, but it better then what I have experienced in the past.
    I appreciate articles like this, because it confirms what I have been learning from experience and other sites. The next step will be to go to paid hosting/domain, but I’m going to wait until I gain more experience. Not costing anything takes some of the pain out of the learning curve.
    As for Kevin Costner, Dances with Wolves covered over a whole multitude of sins! Especially with the Water World incident looming in his future…

      • Thanks for the link.. It’s pretty much spot on. I’ve made .01 cents with adsense in the last month. A few years ago, I tried advertising a site with google adwords. It was a pathetic waste of money to say the least.
        For now, I’m going to hone my blog/s (when I decided on an additional topic), build some more traffic, and then try chikita, and hopefully write an e-book to market. Time has been a bit of a difficulty lately, so I’m just trying to stay focused and patient.
        Believe it or not, Hub Pages has generated me “some” traffic, but is not going to be a permanent fixture in my online writing arsenal. If anyone has any brainstorms, please feel free to share. Right now, I’m looking at either no or minimal financial investment. I’m more likely to stick with it if I don’t feel like I’m wasting money. Thanks!

    • The most profitable way to handle this would be to spray train him with a hose, collecting your encounters on film. TMZ would probably fork up a few thousand per minute of footage gathered.

      Just a thought…

  17. The title of this blog is hilarious! I like that you give a solution to the issue at hand- establish relationships and talk about your core message. I think it’s also important to be seen as a trusted expert in the field in order to establish those relationships in the first place. Here’s an article relating to this:

    • Cool article, Emily. I like the term “attention economy.” Trust is definitely key, which is why it’s helpful to build these relationships when you’re still figuring stuff out.

      Maybe you’ll dig this post from Sonia as much as I do: 🙂

      Thanks for taking the time to share and comment!

      • Thanks for sharing the article from Sonia! I can definitely relate to her perspective.

  18. Fun post and it did provoke me to think on it awhile…bottom line though, before you can get the KCS you have to build something. Have faith in yourself and build it. You can’t drive traffic to nothing right?

    • I personally think the KCS comes first. If you’re building “it” before it occurs to you that someone should see it, the “it” is probably a hobby. But I agree that faith and action are required if you want to build something truly amazing.

      Also, don’t forget that “traffic” is just a term used to signify numbers of unnamed people visiting your site. Relationships are much bigger than that. While good relationships are harder to measure, their impact will always be greater than something that just drives traffic. So… no. You can’t drive traffic to nothing, but really, you don’t need a perfect site to start making friends. 🙂

      Thanks for taking the time to comment!

  19. One of the best I’ve received so far. We all have our own field of dreams, I guess. And we all deserve to have them come to see it. But it is not going to be a walk in the park kind of thing. It can be a back-breaking job but if it is worth building, it must be worth building well.

  20. I think I’m tapping into the collective unconscious with the whole KCS thing. I’ve been using the question “so you built it, why aren’t they coming?” as the lead in to some webinars I’ve been doing on web copy. Online marketing strategies depend on these 3 things:

    1. A clear message that’s articulated in a professional and friendly way
    2. A website that rocks (and all that entails)
    3. RELATIONSHIPS (where the real heavy lifting is)

    I’ve seen so many people who were good at 2 out of 3 fail online…a lot of them marketing folks who should know better. The Internet is a big pond. If you want to stop being a minow and move up in the food chain, you’ve got to knuckle down and commit to all three.

  21. “just sit back and listen.

    Focus on the people you want to work with and observe them in action. Learn what they care about and what makes them tick.”

    I really agree Jessica, and am taking this approach right now.


  22. Becoming an active listener is key to understanding the requirements of a target audience. The more we listen, the more we get to know about our customers. But the bad news is that most of the businesses are just too impatient to listen to what their audience has to say. And that’s exactly where miss the mark.

    Thanks for the nice post, Jessica!

    • Thanks for the kind words, Obaidul! Sometimes I wonder if it’s more than just impatience…

      I mean, people are joking right now that the Google+ motto is “you know better than we do,” while Facebook’s is “we know better than you.” I think that’s more about arrogance than anything else.

      I agree, though. Listening is key. We have two ears and one mouth for a reason, right? 😉

      Thanks for taking the time to comment!

    • Consumers are the key to the success of every business undertaking. Reaching out to them and learning them is a very important step only fool would think that this is not needed in order to succeed.

  23. This post is so spot on, and I’ve learned it the hard way. If no one knows about you, no one knows about you.

    What intrigues me more though, is whether you come up with the content idea first and then look for a suitable reference like Field of Dreams, or whether you watched the film and it sparked the idea? Enlightenment please.

    • Hi Jon. In this particular situation, we were talking about people getting caught up in the details while missing the message and the line just fit. That’s when the post happened. Of course, this approach isn’t always “the way”…

      Nice website, by the way. Thanks for taking the time to comment. 🙂

  24. It is always a struggle to prevent Kevin Costner from ruining everything!

    Nice Post, it is always important to be aware not to get bogged down in the little details.

  25. I do agree! Experiences and being an authority over a certain topic will draw people to read your blogs..well, not at all times, some people do get lucky. But yeah, a lot of us are always particular about the nitty gritty.. Thanks for sharing

  26. Jess

    – Very inciteful and thank you.

    As one who has spent 2 years plus living with KCS (largely contracted from internet marketing guru, seminars,consultations and products) I am curious to know if this model was ever valid in the blogging world, it is just outdated – or simply dillusional?

    It initially sounds a reasonable proposition but obviously does not apply to the masses and with the benefit of hindsight is a flawed concept.


  27. Great analogy, Jess.

    I especially like your advice about getting active and getting to know people before fine-tuning your offering. Such great market research, no?

    Here’s a Costner-related irony for you: the shows and rides at Universal Studios are sometimes centered around movies that flopped (including Waterworld). So they’ve built these exhibits and we go . . . to visit tie-ins to movies we’ve never seen. There’s got to be something meta in there. Like sometimes the derivative has far more staying power than the original product.

  28. You are really talking to me, here.The last thing I want to do all day is churn out useless words….I like that you addressed resistance as an entity, for most days not only am I battling my own obscurity and feelings of worth, but huge feelings of unseen resistance as the climate of our economy continually degrades. However, I keep plugging away, refusing to let go of the dream! I am still convinced that there are people who will want my products and services, need them, and will not only appreciate them, but have the means to afford their little luxuries. This is truly thought provoking…
    Thank you so very very much!

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