How to Quit Being So Damned Boring

How to Quit Being So Damned Boring

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  1. Sonia,

    This is one of my favorite posts you have written. You are absolutely correct in that you can have the best content, but if it’s boring, it becomes completely irrelevant. It’s like people who go to the DMV, the process of having your driver’s license renewed is important-it’s crucial that you can travel freely. However, the absolute boredom of the process destroys any faith or interest into the process.

  2. G-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-reat points. It reminds me of the “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken” quote from Oscar Wilde.

    And thanks for including my voice as an example of anti-nacroleptic wordplay – I shall eat a Cinnabon in your honor today!

  3. Sonia, a powerful message, you are right, every blogger needs to pay attention to it. Conformity is the real enemy and most of us bloggers do fall to its prey. Loved your write-up, sharing with my blog followers and bookmarking for future reference.

  4. Let me add two others to that list, Sonia. .. . (aside from yours), Joanna Wiebe and Henneke Duistermaat. Talk about sassy, that’s Joanna. Talk about irreverent, that is Henneke.

    How does one find that voice?

    Aside from embracing your weirdness (see above), write. The more you write, the more you cut through the things that sanded off the edges of your weirdness.

    Okay, that’s how I see it.

    Embrace what makes you different.

    If you like something that some people don’t see as acceptable, let people know, and don’t apologize for it.

    For example, I like pro wrestling. . . yes, rasslin’ 😉


    • Yes on all counts! (Especially Joanna and Henneke … as you might imagine, I had to leave about 50 wonderful writers out of the post, which was quite painful.)

  5. Hey Sonia,

    There is always an illusion for the quality of a content. People work hard but always get afraid.

    I agree with your points of being scared that people wouldn’t like it. The controversial topics can emerge as the boosting factor for your site but the fear doesn’t let you.

    It’s all about what you think and how you react to others perspectives.

    I believe that your inner voice needs to be crafted in a piece of the content which can be reached to everyone at this planet.

    It’s you who decide what is good for your site. People criticize and you can’t let them stop you.

    Thanks for such a motivational article.

  6. Hi Cheryl this post really resonates with me. I too used to be guilty of much of the above until I was introduced to the wonderful Dr Brene Brown and her Ted Talk “why your critics aren’t the ones who count”

    She hit the nail on the head when she told us “There is nothing more frightening than the moment we expose our ideas to the world”

    Author and vulnerability researcher Dr Brown told us how to deal with the critics and our own self-doubt by refusing to “armour up” and shut ourselves off.

    Instead she said we must invite our critics into the arena “reserve a seat” for them and our own self-doubt. “Tell them, I see you, I hear you, but unless you’re in the arena also getting your arse kicked I’m not interested in your feedback and I’m going to do this anyway.”

    Surprisingly Dr Brown didn’t tell me anything I didn’t already know : but what she did do was: give me the courage to be me and accept the “haters will always be there”.

    Happily I see haters, trolls and naysayers in a completely different light these days, how they feel and what they spew is there problem and one that says far more about them than it does about me.

    One of the other things I’ve since heard Brene say is: “Genetics loads the gun, environment pulls the trigger” ( Fab )

    For me, working in the online space and so far as the “critics” are concerned that translates to: “insecurity loaded your gun social media pulls the trigger”

    Dee x

  7. Being who you are – that’s a lesson all of us need to learn. Stop medicating kids who do things differently. Don’t push them to be ‘normal.’ Normal is boring.

  8. It is quite a challenge being oneself in an environment where all the forces are bent towards ensuring that you conform. I can only conclude that it takes courage to express one’s true character, speak in one’s own voice, and be oneself.
    People love originality; they will remain loyal to you for as long as you will remain original.
    Thank you for this post

  9. Hey Sonia,
    Thanks for your continuous reminders and loving swift kicks to get my act together in this on-going journey to use and express my voice. It’s a work in progress. You shared some great examples…and I appreciate your voice as you continue to lead by example.

    As I was swirling and sloshing the subject around in my brain, yet again this morning, after reading your above post…there is clearly something about committing “in writing” that holds its own “I’m not sure about hitting that publish button” edge. And, gratefully, the more I write, the easier it is to commit my uniqueness to “paper.”

    Yet being a self-confessed sustainability junky…(and blessed that I live in a city where I can ride a bicycle everywhere)…I’ll show up for a meeting, business or otherwise, in my bike garb. It is a part of my voice, my brand, something that makes me unique. And if that’s not okay with the person I’m meeting, it’s likely we’re not a good fit to work together. And that’s okay, too. And yes, everything has its right place. I’m not showing up to a friend’s wedding in my bike garb.

    So what is it about writing, beyond, I want to be liked by everyone as, for me, that applies to readers and in daily life? What is it about clicking that publish button that makes me/us want to be “so damned boring?”

    Would love to know any further insights.

  10. Thanks Sonia for this great article. It comes at a perfect time in my writing journey. You’ve inspired me to shed my vanilla voice and allow the authentic me to shine through. ?

  11. Over the years, I’ve learned to go beyond what my role has defined me as – a marketer, a professional coach, etc and to step into the core of my identity and communicate from there. To speak and write without labeling myself seems to work very well for me. A method that seems to help in this process of owning my voice fully is: if NOW is the last opportunity I have, what do I want my audience to learn, to know and to receive?

  12. So I never had my weird edges knocked off. I’m equal parts Lisa Simpson, Lucy from Charlie Brown and Morticia Addams. In my author brand (I was just sick in my mouth typing that), I’m free to pursue all the weird stuff I like because I write Gothic horror and dark fantasy. I can get excited about abandoned buildings because they might be the entrance to London Below. Or I can share articles about strange folklore just because. But then I decided I wanted to write content for tech startups. So I set up a whole new ‘serious’ website. I started talking about the kinds of things that I thought business owners would be interested in (apart from one blog post where I used It’s A Wonderful Life to demonstrate how copywriting works – that was pretty fun). God, I bored even myself. But more and more people seem to be saying it’s okay to actually be yourself. And I’m glad. Because there are few things I hate more than being bored. So let’s see what happens…

  13. There’s a line from Heller’s “Catch-22” that I think would fit nicely here. “The Texan turned out to be good-natured, generous, and likable. In three days no one could stand him.”

  14. Borrrrrrringgggggg GRRRRRRRR. Sonia this post is so damn good that I got so many things from this post. Most businesses dont focus on great content, they do marketing but they forget if their content is boring nobody gonna read it.

    Your folks will not be glued to your boring content maths. Stop being boring and make some noise with great content. I know it is quite challenging in this cut throat competition but it is damn important to have great content.

    People love original content and they will be loyal forever if you satisfy them with your content.

  15. If you want to up the stakes here, start attending networking events so you can use your authentic voice in your 30-second infomercial. It might take years, but once you get that down, doing it in writing will be a piece of cake. Or a Cinnabon.

  16. This post truly inspires every content writer because of two reasons ;
    1. It motivates one to be inspired within his own limits of expectations.
    2. Superb example of small children, which every individual on this planet can understand.

  17. Thank you for this article.

    I’m new to blogging but have realised that I was too analytical, and not personal enough. I wasn’t connecting with my readers, just giving information. I know that people do business with people so now I make an active attempt to share my personal experience and views, to share something of myself with my readers. I’ll keep sharing myself – warts and all!


  18. Thanks, I appreciated your thought on being obnoxious to get people’s attention. There is way too much of that these days and it is hard to tell if people really believe what they are saying or just trying to get a rise out of others.

  19. This is such a great point Sonia! I hate going to a site that bores me to tears. I think people are focused too much on perfection and making money VS taking a chance and being wild.

  20. Hi Sonia,
    Your post makes a lot of sense. Too many times I try to write something that is balanced and well structured and what I end up with is something that is bland and boring (and as you say something that can be found in 100 other places).

    I am going to take your advice on board and try to push the boundaries a bit more in the future.

  21. Thanks a lot for this, Sonia! This has really motivated me.

    I have been bothered by the longest time that I like writing about lifestyle topics because let’s face it; there are so many lifestyle blogs in the universe. I would always think that nothing would set me apart because I wrote about similar topics just like everyone. Now, I’m thinking on how to unleash more of my geeky, museum-loving, and food-loving self to the tone of my blog.

  22. What a great post, I love the positivity of encouraging people to find their voice, and a bit of tough love is sometimes necessary to shake someone out of their routine. And I think it all goes beyond finding your blogging voice, to just finding your inner day to day voice, to express your real, confident and strong self.

    Great job, keep spreading the love and encouragement!

  23. Yes, it resonates. I just wonder how many people now try to start blogs just to get paid, and thus have to “produce content” because there isn’t really anything they truly want to talk about.
    Or, how many people are passionate, use their own voice – and then get the cyberspace-equivalent of a “You sound funny, I don’t like you” death knell. Your voice may be unique, but that doesn’t mean that anyone will like it, either. Especially before you find your audience…

  24. You’re smart, wise and dangerous Sonia.
    Dangerous because you’ve essentially unleashed me – unmoderated – into the wild, the harness – which kept me from being my unique self – collapsed.
    No one talks about the catastrophe that might greet you if you are brave and speak your mind, so thank you for doing so. It’s a risk that could be disastrous.
    It sure as hell beats watching the tumbleweeds laugh at you as they roll by.

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