How to Improve Your Confidence and Conquer the World (or at Least Your To-Do List)

How to Improve Your Confidence and Conquer the World (or at Least Your To-Do List)

Reader Comments (18)

  1. “This is a lie. I grew up in San Francisco. I saw a tiny dusting of snow maybe twice my entire childhood.”
    Great writing as usual 🙂

  2. Fantastic advice. I was told I was smart all my life, and as soon as I became an independent adult I got stuck in a decade long rut. I accepted my position as an office drone who was always shouted down by other, more gregarious people. Now I realize that I have limitless potential, and I need not be silent anymore. I will grow into my ability and push it beyond the limits in my mind and in theirs. Cheers!

  3. Hi Sonia,

    Thanks for an excellent post!

    I’m stepping outside my “content comfort zone” next year.

    I felt inspired by the Authority session on the topic. I’m going to start to record more audio for my blog, and play around with explainers. With a growth mindset, it’ll be FUN! I’m also going to start small, like recording a short series (e.g. 3-5 articles), and then take it from there.

    “Screw it, let’s do it!” Here’s to an awesome 2018! 🙂

    Greetings from a snowy (and cold) Sweden,

  4. Hi Sonia,

    This is too true. Things have been going well for me over the last couple of years, and I’ve had lots of ideas that I haven’t implemented because they “needed fleshing out.” Now some things in my life are changing so that my own life looks a lot like the chaos of 2017. And guess what? I’m getting stuff done and getting new clients – because I HAVE TO!

    I’ve even taken on a couple of clients whose work I don’t exactly know how to do. But I have no doubt that I am able to figure it out as I go.

    2018 is going to be a great year!


    • Yes, ma’am, I have been there. 🙂

      I don’t like disruption or turmoil any more than most people, but they can sometimes be a very effective way of getting us to make the changes we want to make.

  5. Hi Sonia! Really glad I read your article. I spend my youth in the so called “smart ones”. Great study skills and lacking ability to endure in another areas because of unwilling to take risks.

  6. This is so motivating Sonia.

    I really believe in the power of our mindset. If we decide to do something we can do it easily by making up our mind. Procrastination can be destroyed by the power of our mindset.

  7. About two weeks ago I created a self-imposed deadline of October 26, 2018, to do whatever it takes between now and then to be able to take the leap of faith from corporate America to my goal of full time freelancing. Whew, doesn’t that just light a fire under ya? Just signed up for the Copyblogger Certified Content Marketer Program to add another heavy-hitter authority to my certifications.

    So, look out 2018, I’m going to be locked and loaded going in, and I’m not taking prisoners. Time’s a wastin’, and I want this so bad I can taste it. This one’s for me.

    • Cool Sandra — you’ve given yourself plenty of runway. Go get it!

      It’s a very challenging (and often stressful) moment, but there are great things to be found. 🙂

      • Sonia, my comment was written “in the moment,” obviously. I need more of those determined moments because I’ve found that if I have a backup plan (read: day job) then I’ll never get up off my happy self and create my own future. It’s like if I know company’s coming, the house gets cleaned in a jiffy (just don’t peek in the closets), but day to day, things tend to get overlooked and put off til “later.” What am I waiting for?

    • The only trick is that when you tie confidence to results, you can fall into that “fixed mindset” thing, whether the results are good or bad. You need the confidence while you’re pursuing the results, so you can continue to put the work in.

      Quick wins are helpful, if they’re on the right path. Getting something accomplished, even if it’s pretty small, is a huge confidence-builder.

  8. What a super interesting read, Sonia!

    I really enjoyed reading this and learned a few new things.

    It amazes me how simple words can have such a big impact on a kid’s life in the long run. Words and intentions are very powerful.

    I believe confidence comes from getting the results you were looking for. This is when your confidence starts to build up. The more you accomplish the more confident you will become. So, confidence does start with one’s results on a specific goal or challenge.

    Thanks for sharing Sonia!

    Cheers! 😀

  9. I think confidence is something that can be developed and nurtured.
    Nothing is more powerful than a men with high confidence. It is all in the mindset.
    What a wonderful read, thanks.

    Cheers 🙂

  10. Thank you Sonia. Being on a constant journey to find confidence, appreciate the above. And a few additional thoughts.

    I’ve done and explored a lot…had numerous careers, jobs, self-employed…jumped, planned and? And perhaps I haven’t acquired enough of a growth mindset as sometimes things just don’t work and I don’t always have or continue to have “great confidence.”

    “Growth mindset people have great confidence, because they know that if it isn’t good today, it’s just a matter of putting some work in and getting better tomorrow.”

    Even if i trust that I/things will get better tomorrow. Perhaps there’s sometimes a time frame outside the “norm” whatever that is. Or perhaps it’s just not meant to be, even if the work is done.

    One thing that has helped, at least with mindset which is so important, is to reframe the confidence piece. There’s a great insight from Debbie Millman (at about 40 minutes into this interview ( She talks about confidence coming from doing things over and over and learning how to do things and that sometimes what we need is the courage to get started so we can grow the confidence.

    I think, in the end, you’re saying the same thing…yet that mind shift has helped me a lot…I can have the courage to put in the work to grow, even if i don’t have the confidence.

    Thanks for all your wisdom. So appreciate it.

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